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Victims of false domestic violence reporting detail experiences
10/5/2007 9:00 AM By Lawrence Smith  -Kanawha Bureau

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Members of Men and Women Against Discrimination, a Vienna-based children's advocacy group, rally in front of the Charleston Town Center along Lee Street on Oct. 1 to raise awareness of inequities in the way domestic violence cases are handled in the West Virginia judicial system. (Photo by Lawrence Smith)

CHARLESTON - The release of a study indicating that most of the petitions for domestic violence protection orders may be used for leverage in a divorce or child custody proceeding comes as cold comfort to those who've experienced it firsthand.

"I was so innocent, and the evidence was so profound, I was able to beat that in court myself," said Teresa Lowe.

Lowe was among the 25 people who gathered along Lee Street in front of the Charleston Town Center Mall Monday, Oct. 1 as part of a rally and press conference held by Men and Women Against Discrimination.

To kick off National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, the Vienna-based children's advocacy group staged the event to release two studies showing inequities in the West Virginia judicial system when it comes to domestic violence.

The first study was an analysis of all petitions for domestic violence protective orders filed in Cabell County Family Court during the 2006 calendar year. According the study, 76 percent of all petitions are dismissed.

Using the Cabell County statistics as a model, the second study showed that the time and resources lost in dealing with those dismissed petitions is $18 million.

Though she now lives in her native Wood County, Lowe, 38, says the analysis of Cabell County holds true in Jackson County, where she used to live with her now ex-husband. In the course of their divorce proceeding, Lowe says he leveled accusations against her of child abuse in an attempt to gain custody of their children.

Though the tactic eventually failed, Lowe says she and her children are still feeling the repercussions of those allegations.

"I've spent six years of my life tied up in court," Lowe said.

Likewise, Chris Saunders says the same holds true in Wayne County which not only neighbors Cabell County, but also shares part of Huntington. According to Saunders, accusations of domestic violence were leveled against him on nine different occasions by his ex-wife, not including additional allegations he molested his daughter, which led to two warrants being issued for his arrest.

Now since exonerated of all the charges leveled against him, Saunders, 37, who now lives in Burlington, Ohio, says the studies MAWAD released has a therapeutic effect for him.

"I just like seeing the information get out," Saunders said. "Nobody should have their children torn away for making false allegations."

Hopefully, Sanders says, the studies will convince lawmakers to pass bills criminalizing false reporting of domestic violence, and creating 50/50 parenting plan.

"What we're talking about is children having a right to both halves of themselves," Saunders said.

Charles Pope says both he and wife were victims of domestic violence. He for not being provided assistance after she battered him one night, and her for being provided too much assistance under the assumption she was the victim.

According to Pope, who lives on Charleston's West Side, his wife become violent one night in January. Unbeknownst to him, Pope says, his wife was taking medication for depression, and had been diagnosed with schizophrenia.

"She just snapped," Pope said.

When police came to their house at her urging, Pope says they were prepared to arrest him. However, with the intervention of his pastor, police placed her in custody.

Instead of being arrested, Pope says, his wife was taken to CAMC for evaluation. Believing she was the victim of domestic violence, the hospital referred her to a local shelter for battered women.

Later, when he attempted to have a mental hygiene warrant served on her by Kanawha County Sheriff's Department, Pope says, people at the shelter told deputies she was not there. However, when he publicly detailed his ordeal at a conference on male victimization in April, his wife was released from the shelter.

"And she really never got the help," Pope said.

Pope says he hopes that police will begin to investigate each domestic violence-related case on its merits instead of arriving on the scene with the assumption the man is the guilty party.

Likewise, he would like to see more services, especially overnight shelter, provided to male victims of domestic violence.

"There's too many politicians hooked up in the foolishness of all this," Pope said. "They don't believe a man can be a victim of domestic violence."

"I'm living proof of it," he added

Charly Young says she knows too well of the man-is-guilty mentality many law enforcement officers have. Though she was not formally part of MAWAD's rally, Young, 29, who lives in downtown Charleston, donned one of their T-shirts and joined them in a march around the Town Center on her way to the transit mall.

About two weeks ago, Young says, she and her fiancee got into a heated argument. The argument centered about coping with financial difficulties they are experiencing.

Needless to say, police were summoned to their apartment. Despite telling police no blows were struck, and she shared part of the blame in creating the disturbance, Young said police encouraged her to press charges against her fiancee.

"The police really didn't care," Young said. "They just wanted to take somebody down."

For Young, the matter was "culture shock." A native of Washington, D.C., Young said she moved to Charleston after leaving an abusive relationship in Baltimore in 2003.

After being nearly choked to death by her former boyfriend, Young says she found it incomprehensible that her word alone could have sent her fiancee to jail.

According to Young, the financial challenges she and her fiancee are having stem from a gunshot wound he suffered three years ago. He is still rehabilitating from that wound, and has not had steady employment since then.

Though acknowledging money won't solve all their problems, Young says if more were done to alleviate poverty, then that would go a long way in curbing domestic violence.

"That is where domestic violence comes from in the poor neighborhoods," Young said.

Comments on this article

  • Parent Alienation

    I can empathize with the letters from fathers who have been alienated from their children. I haven't seen my daughter in over 3 yrs. The mother relocated without notification. The courts do nothing and actually stories of false accusations prevent me from filing any motions to exercise my parental rights. The last thing I want to do in step into that jerkwater nonsense. The only thing I can hope for is that when my daughter matures she will see the clouds part to show the true sky. Right now all I can do is "wish the words of wisdom, let it be, there will be an answer, let it be.

    by Steve Fabian

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  • false domestic violence

    I live in Massachusetts and have been accused without evidence of guilt and have been kept away from my now 10 year old son since 09/13/06. My ex filed a 209A and without proof and on her say so with no prior history or charges, I am being kept away from my son. All I did was leave for a divorce and nothing more. She has even lied to the police about attempted contacts and procured 2 warrants for my arrest which I am on trial for. I did nothing and live 120 miles away from my ex and my son. I am being wrongfully treated as a criminal. I have done nothing wrong except leave my wife who I have been together with for 22 years and never ever been in trouble with the law nor have ant domestic abuse priors.

    by Greg Maliski

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  • Fighting for Father's Rights

    Dear editor, Thank you for covering the rally by Men and Women Against Discrimination (MAWAD) at the beginning of October that was timed exactly on the same day as the state's Domestic Violence Conference. One day I predict you will see tens of thousands, if not hundreds of thousands and even millions of fathers marching on state capitals demanding reform in parenting laws. Today I am sounding the cry for the equivalent of a nationwide Civil Rights Movement for Fathers and their Children. As a father who has been violently discriminated against in the battle for my kids, I appreciate you covering "our side" that is represented by over 23 million American fathers who have been stripped of their rights to their children by a unjust and unfair legal system that society not only tragically accepts but strongly and irrationally supports. I am one of those 23 million American dads who has been stripped of my rights and access to my children for over four years through the "silver bullet" of alleged abuse and other false allegations, multiple lies, lengthy court maneuverings, and a beleaguered, understaffed and under-funded court system that currently is 26 judges short in my county. Just to get a hearing to modify custody in my county takes six months. And if the opposing side who represents the mother with the "power" legally maneuvers through asking for a continuance or some other legal tactic, even more time is eaten up and months and years go by...and children grow up without their father...and the kids, and society suffers, not to mention the broken-hearted dads who often weep for their children, though usually privately. Please continue to cover the stories of the fathers fighting for their children and the abuse nationwide against these men who are victims of discrimination in the family court system, with law enforcement and social services agencies. Children need both of their parents, and according to the statistics from sociological and criminal studies, they especially need their fathers. Our children and our society greatly suffers when children do not have their fathers. And fathers suffer when they do not have their children. --A suffering father with a broken heart, privately weeping for his children, Mr. Dana Scott

    by Dana Scott

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  • Domestic Violence

    My relationship with my daughter has been tossed into the wind due to false accusations of domestic violence for the last 9 years. I have been arrested 5 times with numerous "Order To Show Cause" court appearances. And we must not forget about the corrupt "experts", one of which has been and currently under investigation for extortion and black-mail. However, the thoughtful "JUDGE"; recommended I sign my parental rights away as a reward for all this HELL the system promotes. What is a loving, caring father to do in a case like this?

    by Brian Fahrenkamp

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  • Government 30 years too late

    Why is it that the government always seems to be 30 years too late instead of leading this country into health and vitality? This domestic violence thing has been a bugaboo for at least as long. Because of the misandrist arm of the women's movement, the measure of this issue has swung for to one end of the spectrum. Why and how would our politicians have allowed this to happen? Can it be because allowing thus somehow served some prurient interests they themselves retained in the midst of all the destruction it has wrought? Just ponder for a minute on all the pain and angst that has been injected into individuals and into society because government has gotten it all wrong, once again! Remember what the Bible told us about how the sins of one are perpatrated upon the generations a thousand fold. That looks like the diminishment of the vitality of not only humanity but of the processes that nurture and sustian the very planet on which we tread. Yes false allegations are rampant and have been. Why is it that only now are finally seeing the beginning of a discussion and a study on this sordid subject? But its about time. Yes it is. And tell it to one for sure Senator Joe Biden, candidate for president mind you, who brought you the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) which among other things set the stage for an illegal immigrant to claim domestic violence against 'her' and boom she get a free ticket to America. She must just be sure she gets pregnant by him just before she files the charge! Yes what a country! A pot of gold for some under any rock. This law also did not provide for one shelter for an abused man anywhere on this continent.

    by Robert Gartner

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